Receiving Orders are Really Hard and Dissappointing

This week I learn from experience of how hard of executing orders especially from the one you respect and older than you. 

I got a phone call asking me to do something. I did have the uneasy feeling and wanted to reject it first but it hards since he is one of few persons that I respect most. Reluctant to say NO, I accepted the order and promise to do what he want me to do. 

Eventually after promising to fulfill the wish, suddenly deep in my heart I realize that what I will be doing is a waste of time, which mean a not efficient way of doing thing. Its also an added weight to the burden that I already have. Furthermore it is in form of orders telling me to do thing without asking my opinion. 

I believe one of you sometimes, trapped in this kind of situation, sometimes the order are from the teacher, your parents,  elder brother or sisters, someone who helped you before , close friends, boyfriend or girl friend , wife or husband, and other relevant people in your life. Its feel like you are consumed in the problem while the one giving orders does not understand your feeling. 

So with this experience, it make me realize not to give orders to my beloved one. We can give encouragement but not by ordering other people around. Imagine a few set of dialog below from your respected person asking you doing something you are reluctant to do. 

a)  I want you to do this , this and that. 

b) Can you spent some time helping me. We are going to this together. You are going to do this and this and I'm going to do this. 

c) Can you spend some time helping me. We are going to this together, what is your opinion in solving this problem? 

If let say you can choose the dialog which one is your choice? If let say you are a boss or leader, which one is your dialog? 

Okay, I maybe day dreaming today... :) 

Okay! Back to the problem,  If you are trapped with the situation that I mentioned earlier, what will you do?